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Since there have been a couple questions, I thought I should clarify something from my last message.
We didn't have a problem with any of what the radiation oncologist said today. Generally, we like him. He was straightforward as most of Karen's doctors have been. The quotes may seem harsh out of context, but the reality is the doctor was doing his job in advising Karen and assessing her mental status.
In my mind, his statements were similar to the surgeon breaking the news that Karen had cancer without preamble. Or the medical oncologist advising us without hedging there was a 50% chance of recurrence over 5 years without chemo or radiation, then informing us that if we wanted to have children we had one week to decide so we could extract and freeze eggs for 5 years down the road. Guess we burned that bridge as we crossed it.
I included the quotes because for both of us they were a cold, hard reality check, one of many as this has gone on, the type that keep us up from 3 to 5 some mornings. More sobering than offensive.
As a final aside, I would guess the "A" word may have gotten a few people's attention. The undisputed fact is that chemotherapy and radiation do terrible things to a fetus. Regardless of where individual beliefs fall on the issue (and I recognize there may be many), I think the doctor was doing his best in making the consequences of our creating that condition abundantly clear. I intend no offense by saying that and intend to start no debate, not that there has been mention of either. Just a final CYA (or is that CMA?).
My apologies if my words or strange, irreverent humor have created either confusion or offense (insert standard media disclaimer here).
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